Grace

A student once asked me, "What do I say to people when they make fun of me for being a virgin?"  I told her what a wiser person had told me, "Tell them that you have something they can NEVER have again." 

  A student told me today that she couldn't come to tutoring because she had to go to the gynocologist's office tomorrow.  When I asked why she told me, "Oh, well you know that boy that I was dating..yeah well we you know." 

  When I asked her about him she said that they weren't even dating anymore when he had snuck into her house and she GAVE him her virginity.  Rumors got around school and her mother found out.  She said that her mom grounded her for a week.  The reason however wasn't that she had, had sex it was because he had snuck into the house. 

   When I asked why she gave something so precious to someone that wasn't even her boyfriend anymore she replied, "Well it just sort of happened." She said, "Besides I wasn't planning on waiting till I was married or anything." 

   I was sitting there listening to her and wondering to myself.."Why doesn't this beautiful, young and talented girl see her virginity as something to be guarded and kept for her future husband." 

   The answer..her example...She has been raised by a single mother that has a live in boyfriend.  She watches TV and listens to music that encourage promiscuity.  Perhaps she has been raised in a home without Godly morality. 

   The worlds tells you that there is nothing sacred.  There was no good reason for her to save her virginity. 

   Yet even though this girl has been raised without God and been taught that this behaviour is acceptable...I could see the faint look of shame on her face as her conscience was pricked. 

   I wondered yet again.." Why is she sharing this with me when she knows that I am going to encourage her to not continue down this path."  Perhaps this is her way of asking for help...to know if she is worth more to someone that just some momentary pleasure that they can get for themselves. 

   If you are reading this and you are contemplating weather or not you should have sex with someone that you are not married to the answer is "NO"!!  Don't do it...even if you think that you are in a committed relationship..commitment without real commitment is not commitment.  If that person isn't willing to wait to sleep with you then they don't deserve you. 

  No one can take your virginity away from you..you have to give it.  If you have been raped or abused God can and will restore  you.  You still have your virginity..because it is a precious gift that you should guard for the love of your life..your husband or wife. 

    "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard"  Romans 3:23

"All of us like sheep have gone astray, Each of us has turned to his own way; But the LORD has caused the iniquity of us all To fall on Him."  Is. 53:6

"But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed."  Is 53:5

  Perhaps you have given more than your virginity to the world...perhaps you have been prostituting yourself to whomever or whatever draws your eye.  Perhaps it is the mall, your children, your job, your house, your car.

   None of those things sound like they would be drawing you away from God...but if you are spending more time thinking and giving your love to those things then you have left your first love...go back to Jesus...everything else will fade away...curl up in his arms and remember you are the bride of Christ..he wants your virginity in the sense that he doesn't want to share your true love and affection with anyone or anything else.